He came, I saw... he conquered - Deepa M. Kini

"Me" - Deepa M Kini
God has blessed me with a good family, good health and has provided me with opportunity to work for a reputed IT company. I love being with different type of people and conversing with people of all ages. I respect time - mine and others' too.

The arrival of Pranay in our lives definitely made "Me" feel special. A mother in me was born on the same day and this person in me is learning each day to bring up this beautiful little gift of God. I love it.. I lose it too, I believe it’s all part of raising a kid! The "ME" time in my life has gone out of the drain but is substituted by a "WE" time. This time is fun as well.

I learn a lot from my toddler - being excited about little things, dancing on slow songs, getting a kick out of turning on a switch!!, having the courage to say - I hate/love without fear of retaliation, showering kisses on the ones you love.

Pranay's arrival 
(He came, I saw...)
I was admitted to the hospital one week before the due date. I was induced on 4 June 2011 at 6 AM. I faced mild contractions immediately. I was advised to roam the corridors of the hospital and the pain went up exponentially. By noon time, the contraction was 1 minute apart. However, the cervix was not opening wide enough. At 3:00 PM the doctor announced that I must be operated. At 3:35 PM, Pranay was born. I was semi conscious due to the anesthesia. The first time I saw the little tyke crying his guts out, I felt complete. Tears rolled down my cheeks.

He conquered
From that time onwards, he has been part of everything - our thoughts, our decisions, our work and essentially our entire life. He has completely subjugated our schedules and he definitely challenges our patience from time to time. He deluges his unadulterated love on us each day, love that asks for nothing in returns, no expectations.

We are FamilyWe are a nuclear family and my parents-in-law stay with us for half a year. They go back to their eldest son's house for the rest of the year.

Tough PathInitially I was scared to even hold him in the fear that I may hurt him in the process. But, soon I grasped that if I do not become strong, I will end up accepting non-family folks making the decisions for us. I knew no one would be around to help me once I am back to my place. So I learnt all the basic baby care techniques. I knew that all decisions we make may not work out great, but I stuck to it even if people told me otherwise. Today, I see that it works best for us.

I joined back work when Pranay was 8 months old. I hired nannies, read multiple, but it was not working out even though my in-laws were around to supervise. Then, the time came for my in-laws to go back. We decided to put Pranay in a day care. We shifted to an apartment with an in-house day care facility. We enrolled him there and to our surprise within a day, he got adjusted there. He loves being there with his friends. This was one of the biggest risk and the toughest decision for us. But it paid off in the end.

Bringing up Pranay
Till now, I would not say it was easy. It was definitely exhilarating but exultant too. I cried when he was sick, I laughed when he chuckled, I played dumb to make him smile, I danced to encourage him to shake a leg, I've had sleepless nights trying to make him sleep!.

I dream of Pranay being a well-rounded human being. I don’t want him to be stereo-typed to the “guy” (rugged, no pink, guys-do-not-cry, play with automobile toys only) stuff. I hope he grows to be a caring and sensitive man who is capable of making the best decisions for himself and the people around him. I will not refrain from loving him, hugging him or scolding him when the time comes.


I'd make sure

I give him time.
I will be there for him when he needs me.
I will take his opinion on decisions that concern our family.
I will respect him for who he is.
I will provide him best education and values.
I will teach him to respect women.


Love you MumPranay kisses me when he feels like or when we ask him to. He sticks to me when he is sick or scared. He looks at me when he is hungry. He chooses me over others in a crowd. He stays the entire day in the day care center and spends less time with me, but still he hugs me and kisses me when I go to pick him up. He kisses me when I cry. He snuggles up to me at night when he feels scared. He brings his books to me for a reading. We dance, we sing, we live our life together! All this only for "Love"