The beauty of motherhood lies in the little, everyday things - Falak Randerian

I (Falak Randerian) am a mother of an 2 year old (DOB 26^th Nov 2010) baby girl Zoe, residing in Bangalore. Handling my baby alone (with the help of my hubby dearest of course), I make conscious effort to be aware about childhood and parenting.  

Zoe arrived – I have always wanted to be a mom, not that I was great with kids, but I want to be the Best Mom for my kid (maybe Leos wanna excel in whatever they do). From the time I knew I was pregnant, I always wanted a natural delivery. Things went pretty smooth during my entire pregnancy, until 25^th Nov 2010 (3 weeks before my due date) when I had to be operated. Zoe came into this world at 01:06 am. My husband (Faizan) and mum were anxiously waiting outside the Operation Theater.I remember, when I became conscious and laid my eyes on Zoe, I had emotions of all sorts running in my mind. I told Faizan "Isn't she just perfect." and Perfect she will always be for us.

Being Zoe’s “Mommie” –

Being a new mom (especially for someone who hasn’t held a baby in her arms before) was both fun and pretty challenging at the same time. Especially when I wasn’t able to decipher why my baby cried, I felt helpless. Slowly and steadily things became smooth and I started communicating with my baby pretty well. Faizan plays a very active role in bringing up Zoe, and I love seeing them bond together. I love it when she clings on to me the entire day. Now that she is able to communicate clearly with words and actions we bond better.

We are Family –

We are a nuclear family which comprises just the 3 of us. Zoe not only completed our family, but she completed 'us'. Post Zoe came into the world. The 3 of us are blessed to have each other in our lives.Talking about professions, Faizan is a Research Profession and I conduct Early Communication and Language Development classes for kids between 3-10 years called "My Little Chatterbox"

Tough Path –

The toughest bit is being a first time mum… Zoe was born underweight and I became very emotional when people used to say “Oh my God! She is so tiny.” Can you imagine? People were scared to hold her, they though she might get hurt. Colic was something that was bad; thankfully it lasted just around 2.5 months. Time is a big healer; with time thankfully I have become less paranoid. Being a mom requires high level of energy and your energy levels are on an all-time low post delivery, you need to take care of yourself and the baby. Another thing is losing all the weight post pregnancy, when you don’t have any energy left to exercise, top it all you have body aches which become your companion for some time. Now thankfully I have started working out regularly and things are looking better. 

Bringing Zoe up –

Now that Zoe is getting a sense of wrong and right, I try to explain things to her and be a little stern if needed. I try not to shout at her or definitely not hit Zoe.

I’d make Sure –

I try to make sure Zoe eats well and eats healthy. Though its really tough now, she is becoming a picky eater. When she is able to I’d try to make sure she indulges in extracurricular activities. Talking about dreams and aspirations, I would like her to get good education and values. I would not want to take decisions for her but teach her to decide what’s right for her. I strongly feel a girl child should be able to protect herself and I would be happy if I can make Zoe understand that and learn self-defense. Above all, I want Zoe to be successful based on her own potential, interest and skills.

 “Love you Mum” –

Parenting has made me turn into an evolved person. I feel bogged down when at times I don’t get time for small little ‘me-activities’, but I love doing it for my Zoe. It feels so nice that Zoe who was a baby couple of months back is slowly and steadily evolving into an individual human being.

Wanna know more about me... check my blog: http://beingzoesmum.blogspot.in/