Monday, 1 August 2011

Mishti changed my world - Nibedita Bose

Introduction: This is Nibedita Bose, a “new mum” to a 1.5 year old baby girl – Ishaani aka Mishti staying in Gurgaon.

Mishti arrived (birth story): Arrival of my girl “Ishaani” was 22 days early from her due date. I was induced the labor pain artificially as my baby was ready to see the outside world well before her DD (1st june,2011). Thanks to Almighty, I underwent only 2 hrs of labor pain and delivery was very smooth & normal.
Being Mishti’s Mom: Initial few days I was so overwhelmed with various emotions that sometimes I was not able to infer that I was actually happy, worried or sad!!!. Whenever I looked at li’l Ishaani I felt as if I have given something as a hostage to destiny. Initially it was frustrating when the small baby never reciprocated the cuddles and love but my heart skipped a beat when first time she looked into my eyes & smiled.


We are Family: We have a nuclear family (Me, Subhodeep- my hubby, Diya – my sis & Mishti). I still wonder what I would have done without Diya & my mom’s help. Being the apple of everyone’s eye, Mishti has different entertainment sessions with each of them..... her dad plays & dances with her in his lap, Masi (Diya) sings endless songs when she is cranky & Granny’s cuddles show her birds and animals around!!


Tough Path: Being from a nuclear family who has never handled such a small baby, it was really tough to understand what a tiny baby wants. But as “Subject Matter Expert (SME)” – my mom was there so it was less taxing initially. But what I feel is that trust your motherly instinct and increases your awareness about parenting from every available source – elderly relatives, various internet sites, television shows, print media, friends & doctors. Also, do not blindly follow what others are saying....try to understand the logic & facts about it.


Bringing up Mishti: I would always try to explain her logic behind everything rather than just directing and telling her “Do it just b’coz i said so”.


I'd make Sure: Although it is too early, I would like her to grow up as a strong independent individual who is capable enough to handle herself emotionally & physically.  Also, being somewhat “control freak”, I would ensure that I tone down and let her handle her life.


"Love You Mum": This is something which I am yet to hear from my darling. But I feel so responsible and capable now as my baby’s well-being and upbringing completely depends on me & my actions.

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