We did a great story about Gina Maya Iyer, and we got a lot of readers love the story. Today we will be sharing story of another family who strongly recommend couples should go in for adoption.
Not so long ago I had the privilege of getting to know this absolutely wonderful lady who left me totally inspired. She & her husband are parents to two beautiful boys & one of them happens to be adopted. I have always looked up to people who extend their circle of love & warmth to children beyond the circumference of their umbilical cord. Here is one such beautiful soul narrating her journey through the process of Adoption.
We at Momsters pray for a house full of sunshine, love & happiness for this lovely family.
Identities of everyone associated with this article have not been revealed at the author’s behest. The idea here is to focus on the emotions of the people & not on who they are.
A and I had always known that we were going to have two children, one adopted and one biological. We hadn’t planned to have them so close together but as things turned out, our two children came home with an age gap of only fifteen months between them.
We hadn’t planned to have two boys. In fact, we had asked to adopt a little girl in our application form, even though the agency said there was a longer list of parents waiting to adopt a girl child. At the same time, we had planned to bring home the first baby they showed us, so when the agency called and asked us to come and see this little male child who had become available for adoption, we fell in love with the tiny sleeping fella at once. We were allowed to bring the baby home on foster care leading to adoption, and within weeks, after the court order was complete, he was our legally adopted child and we were his parents.
There are many things about adoption laws in India that need a fresh look, such as the fact that different religious groups have different adoption laws. But even within the existing imperfect framework of legislation and guidelines, our experience was that the process of adoption was transparent and reassuringly focused on the well-being of the child. Of course, it is imperative to register with only an authorized adoption agency.
Some people assume that adoption is an option only for those who have fertility issues or other medical reasons. This is not so: a small but increasing number of adoptive parents, like A and me, are choosing to adopt as a personal, ethical choice.
Adoption is not only for couples. I have known several single women (and a single man) who have adopted children, and others who plan to in the future.
There is a common misconception that adoption involves lengthy amounts of paperwork and legalities: not so. We only had to provide a clear set of specified documentation, including copies of our tax returns and childcare arrangements. Homestudy visits were made by the social workers to ensure that we were suitable adoptive parents. The entire process was completed within a short period and the only thing to do after that was to wait for the call from the agency when a child became available for adoption.
Why did we choose to adopt? Because both A and I believe that when we are surrounded by so many children who are in need of a loving home, it is the right thing to do. The silliest question I get asked is whether we treat the children differently, or whether we ‘can really’ love both in just the same way. Any parent will tell you that this question is like asking whether you love your left eye more, or your right eye. Our two little boys are now growing up together, as alike and as unique as two peas in a pod.
Not so long ago I had the privilege of getting to know this absolutely wonderful lady who left me totally inspired. She & her husband are parents to two beautiful boys & one of them happens to be adopted. I have always looked up to people who extend their circle of love & warmth to children beyond the circumference of their umbilical cord. Here is one such beautiful soul narrating her journey through the process of Adoption.
We at Momsters pray for a house full of sunshine, love & happiness for this lovely family.
Identities of everyone associated with this article have not been revealed at the author’s behest. The idea here is to focus on the emotions of the people & not on who they are.
A and I had always known that we were going to have two children, one adopted and one biological. We hadn’t planned to have them so close together but as things turned out, our two children came home with an age gap of only fifteen months between them.
We hadn’t planned to have two boys. In fact, we had asked to adopt a little girl in our application form, even though the agency said there was a longer list of parents waiting to adopt a girl child. At the same time, we had planned to bring home the first baby they showed us, so when the agency called and asked us to come and see this little male child who had become available for adoption, we fell in love with the tiny sleeping fella at once. We were allowed to bring the baby home on foster care leading to adoption, and within weeks, after the court order was complete, he was our legally adopted child and we were his parents.
There are many things about adoption laws in India that need a fresh look, such as the fact that different religious groups have different adoption laws. But even within the existing imperfect framework of legislation and guidelines, our experience was that the process of adoption was transparent and reassuringly focused on the well-being of the child. Of course, it is imperative to register with only an authorized adoption agency.
Some people assume that adoption is an option only for those who have fertility issues or other medical reasons. This is not so: a small but increasing number of adoptive parents, like A and me, are choosing to adopt as a personal, ethical choice.
Adoption is not only for couples. I have known several single women (and a single man) who have adopted children, and others who plan to in the future.
There is a common misconception that adoption involves lengthy amounts of paperwork and legalities: not so. We only had to provide a clear set of specified documentation, including copies of our tax returns and childcare arrangements. Homestudy visits were made by the social workers to ensure that we were suitable adoptive parents. The entire process was completed within a short period and the only thing to do after that was to wait for the call from the agency when a child became available for adoption.
Why did we choose to adopt? Because both A and I believe that when we are surrounded by so many children who are in need of a loving home, it is the right thing to do. The silliest question I get asked is whether we treat the children differently, or whether we ‘can really’ love both in just the same way. Any parent will tell you that this question is like asking whether you love your left eye more, or your right eye. Our two little boys are now growing up together, as alike and as unique as two peas in a pod.
A great thought!
ReplyDeleteThumbs up to the sweet couple!
Indeed Neha :)
Deletethis is really inspiring.. :))
ReplyDeleteDoes your first kid know that his sibling is adopted?
ReplyDeleteVery inspiring! I have always wanted to adopt a kid... a girl! This story makes me more determined now :)
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